We often feel that not knowing what we are doing must be a bad thing. But there’s a thin line of balance when we think about this. And sometimes it’s during the times of uncertainty that the best ideas come to mind.
EVERYWHERE WE LOOK PEOPLE SEEM TO BE ACCOMPLISHING THEIR GOALS IN A FLAWLESS MANNER
This is the biggest misconception and greatest deterrent for us when we are trying to accomplish our own goals. I laugh at this as tears fill my eyes. Not knowing what I am doing is a feeling that often consumes my mind. Success isn’t relevant without the stress. Otherwise, I’d argue that what we’re witnessing on social media as flawless is most likely just regurgitated or copycat material in my opinion.
Think about it, why would any company or one want to talk about the struggle they endured before becoming successful? Years of screaming and yelling as we want to pull out our hair (saying it nicely), thoughts of quitting, and ignoring those around us who feel they know better what’s best for us than we do.
Why would anyone want to relive that? I know I wouldn’t. I would want to celebrate and show off my hard work. But I also understand the value that vulnerability can bring to anyone who wants more from their life experience.
NOT KNOWING ALLOWS US TO KNOW THE THINGS WE NEED TO SUCCEED
Everything happens for a reason. We can’t have the ups without having the downs, right? If things were always good how would we ever feel grateful? We wouldn’t. We would become complacent to the idea that life is always good. Then what? What would we be working towards?
We need these moments of confusion and chaos. I wish we didn’t, but they challenge and give us strength. They are also the moments that most of us quit.
They are uncomfortable. These are the periods during the journey that we drown in the filth of uncertainty. They are also the times when we are able reach deeper than we ever imagined and the magic begins to happen.
THINGS DON’T HAPPEN TO US THEY HAPPEN FOR US, BUT WE MUST FIRST BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE
We enjoy comfort, and have evolved to protect ourselves from uncomfortable situations, so why would anyone in the right mind want to remain in these conditions? The truth is, most people wouldn’t. And that is why many of us choose comfort over uncomfortable experiences. Whether it’s our career, relationships, or other life events our not wanting to get our hands dirty force many of us to remain anchored in moments of time that drain our soul.
Life happens. We all experience it differently. No two of us will ever have the same experience. That makes us unique. But that also leaves room for a lot of misunderstandings of what is acceptable versus what is not. One thing most people can agree on, or at least most people who are successful or wiser from their experiences can agree on, is that overcoming the difficulties give us strength.
What happens in our life is happening for us. If we lose a job, a relationship falls apart, or we become crazily confused these are all opportunities for us to take our lives to the next level.
Jobs are lost, but we grow. Relationships fall apart to save us from a lifetime of misery. Confusion while working on any thing allows us to look at life with a different, usually forced new perspective.
EMBRACE THE MOMENTS OF UNCERTAINTY AND BE OK WITH NOT KNOWING
Stop looking at life as a failure, but instead as your greatest teacher. Lessons are often disguised as failures. And our greatest growth always comes when we understand that life is happening for us.
Whatever it is we seek in life it’s important to understand that the bad times are just as important as the good. We grow through adversity. It’s the times of difficulty that make us wiser and stronger.
Success of any kind is a mindset. The way we choose to think about an experience determines the emotions we will experience. How to achieve this is unique to each of us. It begins with evaluating and understanding our own lives. And that is where the true challenge lies.
We each see life with a different perspective but we all have the intelligence to choose how we perceive our own, very unique, experiences. It is true that the strong survive, but what we lose sight of is that each of us has the strength to survive any experience. Life isn’t easy, but it can be manageable. What our life looks like is always our choice.
HAVE YOU EVER GROWN FROM AN UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE?