How to Do What You Want to Do, or Don’t – Thank You Life For the Confusion

Thank you evolution for giving us these super computers encased within our skull. In life our intelligence is the biggest thing that we need to overcome. We have 70,000 thoughts per day and we run around like ants or bees responding to the signals that surround us. We get lost in tunnels of thoughts. Each leading us further and further away from ever having any understanding of reality and our ability to do whatever it is we want to do.


It may sound selfish on the surface, but we need to put ourselves first. I spent years focusing on other peoples lack of motivation, and lack of self confidence. I want to get inside of their heads and scream, “Wake up!” Why can I see life with an open mind, and yet this person feels as if their life is crumbling from the inside out? Perception. We all see life as we choose to see it.

By focusing and wanting to help people believe in themselves as much as I did slowed down my growth. Sure I’m wiser for trying, but I was spending more of my energy trying to change someone’s perspective instead of focusing on my own perception of the situation. I became so caught up in the worlds problems, at least how I perceived them, and I was neglecting myself.


The world is whatever it is we choose to focus our attention on. There will always be good and bad in the world, love and hate, but what we choose to focus on only intensifies either of the two. If we believe the world is full of ugliness and evil we are only adding fuel to that fire. The same is true for LOVE.

Whichever triumphs is because we allowed the winner to prevail.


Like with any problem, the first step for solving it is realizing that there is a problem. For me I limit outside influences. I don’t live like a hermit, but I am selective who I let in. The opinions of other people that I allow to influence me are monitored carefully. You can say I am bit overprotective of myself, as we all should be. This doesn’t limit me from meeting people, But the difference is who I choose to keep close and who do I limit my interactions with.

Television, news, and magazines are some of our greatest influencers. I don’t watch much television and rarely watch the news. Remember evolution and 70,000 thoughts per day? Imagine how much of an influence TV actually has on what we perceive as true? Our conversations are based around fictional characters that we see on TV, or news reports that tell us how dangerous, sad, ugly, and hateful the world we live in really is.

The average American over the age of 2 spends more than 34 hours a week watching live television — plus another three to six hours watching taped programs.


Because we can. Because I do, and I’m not any different or better than anyone. We can do whatever it is we want to do. It doesn’t have to be some universally large idea. It could be taking off a day from work because that’s what we want to do. F*** it, just do it! It’s healthy to step out of a routine and reflect on how we’re spending our time. We don’t owe anybody anything in this life except for ourselves.

I’ve never been one to live by someone else’s rules. Especially rules that are put into place to consume our every thought, leading us deeper and deeper down tunnels of confusion before we become hopeless and stuck. We all have choices. Wherever we are right now, as we read this, is our choice. There is always a way as long as we remain hopeful and understand that we may not fully be in control of our lives at the present moment.

Are you doing everything that you want to do?

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11 thoughts on “How to Do What You Want to Do, or Don’t – Thank You Life For the Confusion

      1. Yes, I do! Also meant to mention that I stopped watching news years ago, too. It has really helped me to focus on where I do have the power to see life more beautifully instead of being driven by fear. I do see snippets from time to time, but I’m no longer marinating in all of those fear-based thoughts that the entire world is falling apart. Great post and message!

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  1. Yes!!! I am a very emotional person. I put myself in other people’s shoes & genuinely feel pain for them. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, however; I don’t know how to turn it off & I become overwhelmed with emotions from the news & media. I also work for a non profit & learned the hard way that I can only help those who truly want to better themselves. You are absolutely right, the only way to better the world & show it the love it so truly deserves is to start with ourselves, & our own little world. If everyone thought like this, the world would be a better place. Thank you for sharing!

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  2. Thank you for following my blog because this is a post I really needed to read. We are conditioned that to care for ourselves first is wrong but until we do we cant really be great help for others. And yes, how we see things can come out of past experiences or conditioning that has not always been life affirming. It can take time and pain to realise this.

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    1. Thanks for the comment. I’m grateful that my words resonated with you. You’re right. We first must love ourselves before we can be the best type of help for anyone else.

      I appreciate you and your support 🙂


  3. I couldn’t agree more. I too am becoming increasingly self protective. I am careful about the time I need to myself and how much I give away to others. I am more and more conscious of the impact others have on me and adapt my interactions accordingly. I put very strict limits on how much time I spend on social media and what input I am willing to accept. As a result I feel I have found my way much closer to knowing and becoming the person I want to be, doing the things I want to do. It is a work in progress, but at least I know and pay respect to the direction of travel now that I can see it more clearly 🙂

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