Why Can’t We Cry? The Importance to See Things as They are, Not as We Wish They Were

It’s just a game, why are you crying? I’m sitting here dealing with real world problems watching a college freshman cry because the team representing the school she attends didn’t win the National Championship. Who am I to say tho, right? If I judge her I’m pretending that in some way my perception is more important that her feelings at that very moment.

WE ARE 99.9% THE SAME, BUT OUR PERCEPTION COULD BE 99.9% DIFFERENT   

Gonzaga just played their biggest game in school history, and they lost?  But did they?  We tend to focus on what could’ve been instead of what is.  It’s human nature.  Human perception.  We don’t look at the fact that our favorite college basketball team made it to their first Championship game ever.  Instead we focus on what didn’t happen. What could’ve been.

Cry if you must. At that very moment you feel hopeless.  Defeated.  Everything you’ve hoped for just came crumbling down right before your eyes.  Sure, there’s a man sitting outside of the stadium with a ripped styrofoam cup hoping not to be laughed at as he begs for change, but you can’t think about that as your heart sinks and the tears flood your eyes.

WHO’S PERCEPTION IS RIGHT

So, what’s worse?  The man who begs for his next meal outside of the stadium, or the school that just earned millions of dollars for competing in the NCAA Championship game, win or lose?

Neither or both?

They’re both devastating losses depending on who we ask.  Some of us will passionately believe the homeless man has it worse.  We can argue that his he’s a human being and he should be cared for the same as everyone inside of that stadium. But not so fast, because there’s thousands, maybe even millions of fans who’ve attached their happiness to the outcome of that game.

SEE THINGS AS THEY ARE, NOT AS WE WISH THEY WERE

We spend much of our time debating who is right and who is wrong.  There can never be a right or wrong, because there will always be someone who sees things differently than we do.  This is true for all that we do.  Instead of spending our time trying to convince ourselves that we’re right and everyone else has gone mad, we need to accept their perception of an event or situation as it is.

If we believe that our perception is always right, I can guarantee that we’ll be wrong most of the time.  We should try to be open minded to the way people around us are accepting their reality.  It’ll never be exactly the same between two people, but that’s what makes life so beautiful, our ability to perceive life exactly how we want it to be.

WE ALL WIN (IF WE ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN)

Congratulations North Carolina on winning your sixth NCAA College Basketball National Championship, and to Gonzaga for making it to your first ever NCAA Tournament Final.  Both are great achievements.  Both winners.  Both should perceived as such.

Judge less and accept realities as they are seen by the individual doing the viewing.  Life is never perceived the same by all of us.  We should focus less on our differences and become more accepting to the idea that we will never truly see things the same as everyone else.Blog_NC_1

Is there anything that you’ve ever believed to be the only way of seeing something? Share your thoughts below. 



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8 thoughts on “Why Can’t We Cry? The Importance to See Things as They are, Not as We Wish They Were

  1. I get so attached to my views, and so many interactions pain me because of people seeing things differently, so this post was great. I need to often be reminded that embracing differences in thinking is essential to removing huge amounts of social suffering. Alan Watts once said something like “people who disagree are actually working together toward a shared goal of disagreement”. Seeing that beautiful little yin and yang swimming around in everything by stepping back. Excellent blog posts and vibes here! Thanks for the follow!

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