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The person who knows what’s best for me, is me period. The same is true for you. You know what’s best for you better than anyone else ever will, but here lies the problem. There will always be someone who believes they know what’s best for us better than we do. Like the saying goes, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink. The only opinion that will ever matter is our own.
Read this excerpt from, Self-Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson
What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
you’ve shared something you’re excited about with someone and heard the following –
You don’t want to do that…
Why would you do that?
Are you sure that’s a good idea?
This past week I’ve experienced this a lot. The more I do to move myself closer to my goals, the more people I connect with, and the more assholes I have to smell. I mean opinions, but you get the point. I don’t have everything figured out when it comes to marketing myself, but I believe in trial and error. Try things to see what sticks, and what slides down and out of existence.
Personally, I’ve always been a little insecure about how I look in pictures, and how I look and sound in videos, so recently I’ve put myself out into the publics eye by posting more pictures and videos of myself (click here, and here to see).
Why are you posting this or that picture a couple of people said to me while offering their stinky opinion as to why I shouldn’t be doing so. Opinion noted, thank you.
I’ve also sat and watched quietly as someone tried convincing what another person should be doing with their life. “Go to school for finance, because you’ll make a lot of money” followed by what school he should go to, and other info about why he needs to do it.
Something similar happened to me once. Before I went back to college to finish my degree I was working as a retail manager. The monotony of the job was getting to me and I didn’t want my college to sit incomplete, so in a casual conversation with another manager I expressed my interest to go back to school in which he replied, “you don’t want to do that.”
You know what I did? I didn’t go back to school. As least not right away, because somehow I allowed his opinion of me determine what I should be doing with my life. Luckily today I am much more self aware and I learn to filter out the stink, but I still catch myself at times questioning the opinions other people have believing they know what’s best for me.
I’m sure some of these people have the best interest at heart, but people rarely know what’s good for themselves. We can be excited about something, and when someone shares their opinion it may slow us down, or even worse it could turn us away from doing what we’re passionate about.
Remember, assholes stink, and so do other peoples opinions about what’s best for you. Your opinion of you is the only one that should ever matter.